If any of the following “complaints” have a familiar ring, we can look for the one who thinks they’re a problem.

• I never have enough money to do what I want.
• I can’t believe he/she lied to me.
• Why didn’t anyone like my Facebook status?
• God, I’m fat.
• He/She never called me back.
• I’m a total failure.
• She/He didn’t even notice me.
• Why are you always late?
• He/She would never love me.
• I’m feeling pretty hopeless/helpless.
• My boss is an overbearing tyrant.
• There’s something wrong with me.
• I did all this for you, and you didn’t even say “thank you.”
• I feel left out, excluded.
• I made such an ass out myself; I’ll never live that one down.
• Stupid people really bother me.

Wherever there’s a complaint, there is an identity being triggered. Add your own to the list. What is the biggest, or the most recent, source of dissatisfaction? Even the smallest disagreements with life as it shows up can be symptoms of a general malaise, reflections of disapproval projected out there, because it’s easier than looking towards the source.  A whine or a low moan might go deeper than you think. If you could get to the root of even a single complaint, you’d see them all for the ineffectual strategies they really are, and you could begin to feel yourself breaking free. Imagine that. No complaints.